This world needs more women who know how to be feminine.
By the end of this article, you will know the exact moves, body language, and expressions that make women more feminine.
The first step to being more feminine is to avoid masculine expressions.
Have you noticed most men make a point of avoiding pink and doing anything effeminate?
You might agree or disagree with that attitude, but you should probably start considering the same approach.
Example:
One evening, I cajoled one of the most feminine women I’ve ever dated to play football with me.
She was very reluctant, though, because, as I later understood, she didn’t want to play typically male games.
When I high-fived her across the table –a typical male behavior– she drew the line and, with a touch of baby talk and a pouting face, told me:
Her : “don’t high five me, I’m not a guy”.
There she was.
In a country where 95% of women pretend there are no differences between genders, she’s a feminine woman who wants to be treated as a feminine woman.
I respected her more after that, treated her more like a woman, and even liked her somewhat more.
That girl made a point of being feminine by outright refusing male behavior.
If you are interested in how to be feminine—very feminine—I recommend you take the same approach.
And actively remind men that “you are not one of the guys”.
Let’s now see more masculine traits to eliminate so that you can troubleshoot yourself:
Are you a businesswoman?
Great!
In business, shake hands like a man.
Outside of business, shake hands like a woman.
This is the business handshake:
And this is how women greet men when they haven’t been instructed to behave like men:
A woman shaking hands as if it were a business transaction can be off-putting.
Especially to more experienced men, who will think “here’s another woman who thinks that proper socialization means acting like a man”.
Avoid it most of all in dating and socialization for potential dating, where it sends a message of cold distance.
Needless to say, you can keep the business style in business and then revert to the female style outside of business.
Here are two simple litmus tests:
And now let’s start with the proper traits of femininity:
Vulnerability is crucial.
Because, once you get it correctly, you can be courageous, go-getter, and strong WITHOUT being mannish.
Why?
The answer is in the difference between how men and women display courage and boldness.
Men’s Courage
Men do it as a display of strength, with stress on display. And they do it while hiding their emotions and fear.
Women’s Courage
Instead, the most feminine way of courage is to admit fear and show up anyway , humbly and without bombast.
Here’s a good example from “Dating in the Dark”:
In the foundational laws of power, we explain the “return on investment” concept, which says that:
The less effort you expend, the more powerful you are.
Powerful and feminine women will achieve the same goal with fewer words, and more body language.
Notice how she invites him to leave not by saying “you should go”, but simply by looking at the door:
There is nothing more feminine than a woman who can sing or play
I remember many years ago, I was hitting it off with a woman at a social function.
Then she went to play the piano… And hordes of men clustered around her.
And if you want to take it 3 steps further, pick a languid song and go Jennifer Connelly on it:
Pro tip:
At the intersection of coy, submissive, and extremely seductive is being naked and covering your private parts with your hand.
This is also a favorite of mine.
A Note on Submissiveness
Some women will recoil at the word “submissiveness”.
The word has indeed taken on negative connotations. In a way, it requires you to give away power, but it also gives you a different form of power back.
Furthermore, sexual and dating submissiveness is a matter of choice. It’s not about being submissive to everyone. It’s about choosing who to be submissive to.
Some of the most feminine and attractive women engage in what reminds me of cat-like behavior.
Here’s a perfect example (click, it’s a video):
